Monday, May 5, 2008

This past weekend!

Well I guess I will start with the bad news first. The CCAA has only matched 3 days this month. I just don't even know what to say or think anymore. When Mike and I started this journey I/we were so excited we just couldn't believe that we were FINALLY going to be parents after trying for so long and after so many losses.

We started in Jan of 2006 and were told 9-12 months after our file went to China. Well our file has been in China for just over 20 months now and we were thinking it would be approx 3 more years. It is ridiculous if you ask me, I just don't get it? I don't understand why this is happening? Are we just not meant to be parents? Mike will be 40 this year and I will be 35. I know that there are a lot of people older than us in the IA program but for us it is just taking too long. If we have to wait three more years (good case scenario) and then another year before you could apply for a second child Mike will be close to 45 and that is the cutoff for a lot of programs if you are requesting an infant.

I just feel like our lives have been on hold for the last nine years and it isn't getting any better. I just wish there was a crystal ball I could look in and know that everything was going to turn out and that we would be parents. I/we have considered switching programs but it is a VERY hard thing to do. We have always dreamed of adopting form China (regardless of our situation) and I can't imagine us not going there but I also can't imagine us waiting 3 more years or more to go?? China has only matched an average of 5.8 days this year and at that rate it would take us another 39 months. That is CRAZY!!!

I just don't know what to do?? I feel like I really can't do anything right now because of my job situation as well. I am only on a 1 year maternity contract and I hope to be able to stay on after that but you just never know?? I LOVE working there and I can't imagine working somewhere else but again only time will tell.

Well enough depressing news, lets get onto something more exciting!! Our niece Emma had her first Communion this weekend and she looked so beautiful!! Mike and I were watching the ceremony at the church and we just can't believe how grown up her and Shayla are!! I swear it was yesterday that Lisa was pregnant with her. The both had readings to do and they did so good! We were very proud of them.

Below are a couple of pictures of Emma after her First Communion! She is so pretty!