Sorry if I gave anyone the impression there was exciting news on the horizon - there isn't! I am trying to post more things and the other day I thought I better at least post the titles of things I wanted to post about or I would end up forgetting.
I got quite a chuckle that people left comments when I hadn't actually posted any info - I got more comments with no info than when I post info!! Thanks Karen and Catherine! It means a lot that you comment on the blog...more than you know!
Anyways on to the "current situation"... the CCAA has sent referrals to families with a LID of up to and including February 9th, 2006. It was very exciting in one way that they matched 9 days but on the other hand 5 of those days were Chinese New Year and no one has LID's for those dates. Either way it was exciting to see 9 days in one month gone!! This means that Mike and I currently have 201 days left before ours. So far this year they have matched an average of 6.33 days/months...if this trend continued until our referral we would have 31.75 more months to wait which would be May 2011. of course we pray that things continue at least at this rate and any speed up would be greatly appreciated!! By the time we get our referral it will be close to a 5 year wait from LID - it is beyond sad and depressing.
I have been looking at the referrals that came this month and some babies are so young and some are 2 and 3 years old?? I know that some people request an older child but the one couple requested a baby and got a 3 year old???? I can honestly say that I would be upset if that happened to us - for one I have always wanted a baby, we have no children and I feel like I would be missing out on something if I didn't experience what it is like to have a baby. Also you prepare for this referral and the preparation for a 3 year old is much different that the preparation for a baby. Crib vs bed, clothes, toys etc.... but also the emotional and developmental issues that come along an older child. I don't think it is fair to the children or the parents. The CCAA says that everything they due is in the best interest of the child, well I just don't understand how they justify this?? Anyways again I am ranting so I will stop and try to think of happier things!
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
2 Year LID Anniversary!
Well I can't believe I am actually saying this but it has been 2 years since our LID of August 29th, 2006. It has been 2 years and 8 months since we started this whole process. When we started they told us 9-12 months, technically we could have been on our way to number 2 by now. It is more than depressing for us both, at first we were sooooo excited, I couldn't believe I was finally going to be a mom etc... I was planning the nursery, looking at baby items, picking up cute outfits etc etc.. Now it just seems so far away that even though a day doesn't go by where I don't think about it it is like a dream that never gets any closer. I can't put my life on hold but we feel like for the last 10 years this is all we have been working towards. After 8 years of trying and 6 miscarriages I was so sure that adoption was what was meant for us. We had always said we would love to adopt one day and we figured it was definitely meant to be but ever since we started there has been nothing but road blocks and slow downs. Needless to say we didn't really do any celebrating...for now it is almost a reminder of how long we have waited and how long we still have ahead of us. Sorry for this downer post it is just that I don't know how to be excited about it anymore??
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